Sorry Guys

[BirdsMomma]

I'm sorry I haven't been on in a while. My boyfriend was in a REALLY bad car wreck on easter morning. He's in the hospital in ICU and they don't look for him to make it.:bawling: This will be one easter i'll never forget, but want to put it in the back of my memory as far as I can. The last visitation time was at 12 midnight. Tonights the first night I've been home since. Matts mom is staying with him tonight. I'm really sorry I haven't had time to talk to you all, I just wanted to let you all know why. Please if there is anyone out there who would like to help me, just pray for a miracle, thats all I can ask. :bawling:

[RottyMommy]

Matt and you will have my prayer tonight and will continue to pray for a miracle. Keep us updated you are in our thoughts and prayers.

[Left Paw]

You all will definitely be in our prayers. Stay strong.

[BaBiLiCi0uZz]

i will definitly be praying for all of u. don't give up!:angel5:

[Mitchandozzie]

You and Matt will be in my prayers tonight.

[BirdsMomma]

I just want to say thank you to all of you. Your prayers mean alot to me. Last night his brain started swelling again and they had to cut open his skull to relieve some of the pressure. I have never been more scared in my life. I'm getting ready to go back to the hospital, and i'll let you all know how he's doing as soon as I hear something. I believe strongly in the power of prayer and again I want to say thank you to all of you who are going to remember us in your prayers.

[Mitchandozzie]

Good luck.

[lilblacklab112]

i will definately pray for you guys...:angel: :angel: -stay strong and dont give up hope

[BirdsMomma]

Last night I went to be with my honey. He's still on life support, but his color looks really good. They're keeping him knocked out so he dont feel all the pain. The Dr. also said he was going to put some kinda tubes in his lungs to help him breathe better. So dont know what will happen. They said if he makes it they'll have to teach him how to walk and talk and stuff over again, whcich will be fine for me, i'll help him as much as I can, as long as he's here with me. I woke up this morning and i'm sooo sick, I called and talked to his mom and she asked the Dr. if it was a good idea if I stayed at home till I got better. So now I have to stay away till I get better, the Dr. said it wouldnt be good to carry any germs in on him right now. So this is devastating me not to be there with Matt. :bawling:

[KittyGurl823]

Hi BirdsMomma
I just got on and read all the postings, I am soo sorry. My prayers are with you and Matt. Miracles can and DO happen, and I will be praying for you! My dad was very very sick last year, and they thought he may not make it, but we prayed and prayed, and the next day we came to visit him in ICU and the Dr. said she never saw anything like this before, he made a 180 degree turn around, and now today after some therapy, he's back to his normal self. Same for my grandpa, he was very sick about 2 years ago, and had pnemonia and we prayed and prayed, and 2 weeks later, he was back at home.
Its strange how people we haven't even seen before (on Petshub) seem closer to us than people we know and think are our friends. I feel like after talking about our animals, and we all share the same love for them, that we are friends here. So, I will be praying for you. Unfortunately, it probably is best you stay at home for the next few days until you start feeling better, so as not to give him any more germs, I know it must heartbreaking you can't be there right now. Maybe his mom could put the phone to his ear and you could speak to him. I know they say talking alot is good when they aren't conscious, that they can hear you and it helps. And as for you, get plenty of rest and get yourself well. How is your daughter? I hope she is doing ok. I know she is taking good care of HarryToothpick ;)
I am praying for you and Lots of Love to you all!:angel:

[BirdsMomma]

Thank you so much for caring. I'm trying to be strong for myself, Matt and Makaylah. Matt isn't her daddy or anything, but we've been together for a while and she calls him daddy (her daddy don't have nothing to do with her). She's been asking how her daddy is and I don't know how to explain anything to her, she's only 4. I told her he had to go out of town. I called this evening to check on Matt and his mom said he's doing about the same. Which is good, I guess, that means he's still here wth us. I'm glad that your dad and grandpa are better now. I agree with you about people being close on here, I feel like you all are my second family. I care about all of you. I've thought about what you said about having Matts mom hold the phone to him so I could talk to him but there isn't a phone in his room in ICU. Hopefully, i'll be feeling better in the next couple days so I can go be with him. I don't want to take any chances on him getting worse. Thank you for remembering us in your prayers.

Oh Makaylah is taking good care of Harry Toothpick, sometimes she just holds him and talk to him about her daddy...she got upset when she was talking to him one night and asked Harry why her daddy didn't tell her bye before he went out of town...I cried like a baby. When she asked me what was wrong I didn't know what to tell her except I missed him. If you have any ideas on how to explain Matt to her please help me out.

[RodentBoy]

birds momma im sorry, i havent been in the hamster forums latly..... im hopeing, wishing, and prayen for the best! :angel:

you should have let ous in the mice forums know.... dont forget about ous... * squeek squeek * ;)

[Left Paw]

I am sorry about all you are going through. I think you should tell your daughter the truth, though. We kids aren't dumb- we know when something is worse than adults pretend. Like a couple months ago, someone broke into our house while my brother and I were away at our GPs and mom was home alone. They tried to keep it from us, but we finally made them tell. We were thinking things a million times worse until we knew the truth.

Your daughter might blame herself or feel it's her fault, especially since she is worried about him not telling her bye. Sounds like she thinks her Daddy was mad with her.

I guess it's really none of my business, but she would be a comfort to you- you could be a comfort to each other- if you confided in her. I know she's very small, but she sounds very intelligent and I think she would understand. You wouldn't have to give her details- you know her best- you know what she would understand and what would be too much.

And never underestimate the power of the hope of a child. It is contagious and inspiring and hope and prayer brings positive change.

[BirdsMomma]

I'm sorry Rodent Boy, I don't have any mice, so i didn't even think about posting anything there. You can let them know if you want. I appreciate you prayers and everything. All of you have been GREAT to me. Thanks again for your continued support and prayers.

[BirdsMomma]

Thank you Left Paw. You're right, maybe I should tell her the truth. I've underestimated her. I never thoiught about any of this untill you said something. Now i've just gotta figure out what i'm gonna say to her. She did ask me if daddy was mad at her. And anything you have to say to me don't be afraid to, it is your business or I wouldn't have put anything on here. I appreciate everything you and the others have done for me and my family. You all have been GREAT. :apart: Just keep remembering us in your prayers.

[RodentBoy]

i informed the mice people * sqeek squeek * he he, hopefully the'll venture into hamster territory....:D

[BirdsMomma]

Thank you bunches, Rodent Boy!!!:flippy:

[RottyMommy]

We will continue to keep you and your family in our prayers. Speaking as a 22 year old I agree I think you should tell her the truth maybe not the whole truth. Tell her that he is sick but that he isnt in pain. Or that he had an accident and he is hurt. I would tell her the truth but do it gracefully you dont want to scare her or make her anymore upset than she already is. Good luck.

[Mitchandozzie]

Im sure she'll understand, like someone said, she sounds very smart. Just tell her what happened. Im sure it will be ok.

[RodentBoy]

yeah, DO IT, about a few years ago, in my moms week, my dad picked me up, and he would tell me, or my sis what was goen on with her... as i found out a about a weeklater, my mother had went to prision. And trust me, i felt much worse fining out later and on my own!

[Vampira]

Well, I'm one of the mouse folks, and ventured in here because of RodentBoy's post.
I seriously wish the best for your bf. It must be terrible to be going through that. You seem like a strong person.
I'm not a religious person, but I do believe there are greater things out there, and miracles do happen. I do hope your bf recovers from this. Have you tried tape recording your voice and saying sweet motivating things and then letting his mom place it next to him so he can hear your voice? Just a suggestion until you recover from your cold.
Good luck, stay strong. :)

[BirdsMomma]

I told Makaylah about Matt. She handled it better than I expected. I just told her that he was in a car wreck and is in the hospital. She wants to go see him and I told her she couldn't that the Dr.'s wouldnt let her back because she was too little. She seemed to be OK with that. This evening when I called the hospital and talked to his mom she said the Dr. gave him a 65% chance of making...which is good, he started out with only10%. So that makes me feel better. I'm feeling a little better today, so hopefully tomorrow or Sunday I will be able to go see him.

Thank you Vampira for your idea, I never thought of that...actually I haven't thought of a whole lot, my mind has been elsewhere if you know what I mean.

Thank all of you soooo much for everything, you all have got to be the nicest people on the internet. I don't know alot about any of you, but you all are the greatest. I really do appreciate everything you all have done.:apart:

[Mitchandozzie]

thata a great chance!!!im glad taht Makaylah handled everything so well

[RottyMommy]

Just another thought to go along with vampira's idea why dont you have makayla (sorry bout the spelling) tape her voice on the tape recorder too that way even after yo ucaan see him again you can tape a message from your daughter everyday and take it in to him. that way your daughter feels like she is doing something too and she can still talk to him. My fater went away for a month for something job oriented but before he went he made a message for me for everyday he was away and you cant imagine how much that helped me when I was younger so maybe it will help your bf. Just to hear a child's voice especially one that is practically his daughter's could make world of difference. Just another thought

[BirdsMomma]

That's a GREAT idea. I'll try that when i'm able to go back. Which will probably be soon!

[KittyGurl823]

Hi BirdsMomma
Im so sorry it took me a few days to write back..I have been thinking and praying for you, Makaylah and Matt. I wasn't exactly sure how you should tell her,but everyone here made great suggestions and its sounds like you did great by telling her the truth. She is a smart girl, she knew something wasn't right, and like someone else mentioned, now that she knows, you can comfort each other. Are you feeling well enough yet to go and see him? Ya, I wasn't sure if there was a phone in ICU or not.. but everyone had some great ideas of taping your voice. And rottymommy had a good one too, of having Makaylah talking to her dad on tape. It sounds like he is doing a little better each day.He knows you and Makaylah are there for him even though u aren't well enough to see him in person yet. I hope you are feeling better. Lots of love and we are all praying for Matt, you and Makaylah.:angel: If there is anything I can do, or you just wanna talk, let me know. Give us your email address if you want. We are all here for u!:angel6:

[BirdsMomma]

To anyone who wants it my email addy is MissFunLuvin@aol.com. I've been to the hospital the last couple of days and Matt is improving sooo much. The Dr. said he would make it. I taped mine and Makaylahs voice to play for him and once while I was playing the tape of Makaylah to him he squeezed my hand, as if to let me know he still knew what wsa going on and he heard his babys voice...I cried like a baby. I know that it's because of you all that my honey is getting better. Thanks to all of you who have remembered us in your prayers. It has greatly been appreciated not only by me but by his whole family. :agree:

[RottyMommy]

I dont think it was so much us that made the difference I think it was Makaylah. the voice of your child can cure anyone if it is God's will.

[Brown]

Hi BirdsMomma,

I am sorry, i didn't notice this thread, till i venture into the hamsters forums.

I am very sure Matt will be fine and good and be reunited with you all very soon.

He sounds like he's having a very very steady recovery. Keep looking on the bright side. You must have faith in him and yourself. Don't give up!

Prayers will be all going out to Matt.

Take good care of yourself too!

[sassy]

Birdsmomma,
I'm so glad to hear that Matt is going to make it , what a trauma you all are going through !! It sounds like you're doing a great job though !! Sometimes I think kids are stronger than we are, your little girl sounds GREAT !!
We'll be Pressing Paws and Hands for you and Matt and both of your family's !!
Get Better Soon Matt !!

[Left Paw]

OMG! You made me almost cry when I read that he squeezed your hand! That is so great! We are still thinking and praying for you all!

[BrandyBlue]

I am new to this post and I wanted to let you know Birds Mamma that I am praying for you and your family also. I hope that Matt gets well very soon! God bless all of you!

[BirdsMomma]

My thanks and appreciation goes out to each and everyone of you. Without being able to talk about to you all I probably woudve had a nervous breakdown. You all have help me soooo much, and you all have givin the best ideas.

Matt is trying to breathe on his own. He is breathing over the respirator. The Dr. said hes gonna see how he does tonight and tomorrow and he may be able to wean him off of it. So everyone keep your fingers crossed and keep praying and maybe soon me and Makaylah will have him home with us. :angel:

[Mitchandozzie]

Thats great! he sounds well on the way to recovery!

[BirdsMomma]

Again I haven't been on in a while, just to let you all know, Matt took a turn for the worst Friday night. We had to call in the family his blood pressure dropped to 80/48. We (all of us) thought this was the last of his long struggle. But good news, the Dr gave him some kind of medicine to make his b/p go back to normal and he's been OK ever since. :angel: Well guys, keep remembering us in your prayers as i'm sure you all are already doing. I have faith that everything will be ok.:agree:

[STEPHANIE11]

srry i didnt come post here earlier and im so srry for u and i will pray for him every day and hope he get better

[RodentBoy]

im, sorry, this is kinda out of the subject... but OMG, stephanie you and my sis were born the the same year, same month, same day!

i almost dont even belive it!

where were you born?

[STEPHANIE11]

i was born in newmarket were was ur sis born well newmarket,canada thats just amazin

[YR2003]

How about an update? I hope he's doing better. :D

[Left Paw]

Yes- I hope birdsmomma's not being on means that he's better and she;s spending all her time with him!

[RodentBoy]

my sis was born in Los Angeles...

i hope he's doing doing ok too.

[Mitchandozzie]

ya i bet she is. id be with him all the time too,.

[BirdsMomma]

Okay guys. I know you all are probably mad at me for not updating you. I've been spending all of my time at the hospital, and when I do get on it's just to check my e-mail, so again if any of you all want to e-mail feel free to do so...MissFunLuvin@aol.com. Matt is doing wonderful, he is off life support and is now breathing on his own. He can also feed himself and talk. Me and Makaylah went to see him a while ago and he started to cry when he saw the baby. The Dr. said he was slowly improving, he still cant walk but hes trying his hardest. We were told he'd be able to come home in 2-3 more months, depending on how he does between now and then. On a sad note tho, me and Matt split up, it was his decision, he said he didnt want to burden me with everything thats wrong with him. I still love him as much as I ever did, and that will never change. I still go see him everyday and stay with him at the hospital once in a while with him. I'm still there for him and hopefully when he gets better he'll change his mind about everything. But anyways, I'm sorry I haven't been on here in a while and anyone who wants to can e-mail me anytime you want. And i'll still keep you all updated!

[Brown]

BirdsMomma, i am really glad u are still visiting Matt even though he mentioned abt splitting up. I am sure he must be hurting badly inside when he make that decision. He is suffering now with his disability, and is feeling really down. I am sure it is not an easy decision to split up with you. I am sure he will change his mind when he gets better. He loves you and ur kids a lot to make that hurtful decision. Reasure him that he's not a burden, do encourage him and get him all perk up! I bet he needs lots of encouragement, support and love now. He's a great man, birdsmomma!!

I am sure u are showering all those to him now! ;)

Let him know we at petshub are wishing him well and send our prayers to him.

:agree:

[Left Paw]

I am glad to hear that he is improving- seems a lot better than first predicted- I bet that 2-3 months will be even less!

Sorry about the break-up. It is good that you understand. I'm sure that, too will change when he is well and more confident. He'll see you there still by him and realize his mistake.

We are still thinking about you all the time.

[BirdsMomma]

Thank you all for the card, prayers, support, and love. I am gonna be there for Matt no matter what. He is only my second true love. He still gets excited when he sees me walk in the room. So maybe he's just afraid right now. I think we'll be together soon. I appreciate everything you all have done for me. I love each and everyone of you!!

[keh02008]

i just found this post and was wondering r ya'll back together and is he doin ok ??

sry it's late but it's the thought that counts

[keh02008]

oops sry i didn't pay ne attention to when yall last posted it seems like i'm only a day or 2 late i thought sence it was at the bottom well u know i'm praying for him night after night day after day and so is my family best of wishes god bless

[Mitchandozzie]

im glad he is doing so much better and dont worry im sure you and matt will be together again soon. hes a very nice person for not wanting to burden you with his disability.

[Ferretlover191]

HOPE HE GETS BETER i HOPE THAT HE LIVES AND ILL PRAY EVERY SINGLE DAY:bawling:

[BirdsMomma]

:bawling: hey guys, ive been really busy with everything thats happened. Matt passed away on June 6. ive had my hands ull with funeral arrangements and ive had a hard time with Makaylah. she misses her daddy. i dont know what to do with myself or her. everytime i see omething of his i cry:bawling: . this is the hardest thing ive ever had to deal with. thank all of you all who prayed for us and please dont forget about me and my little girl. :bawling:

[Brown]

Originally posted by BirdsMomma
:bawling: hey guys, ive been really busy with everything thats happened. Matt passed away on June 6. ive had my hands ull with funeral arrangements and ive had a hard time with Makaylah. she misses her daddy. i dont know what to do with myself or her. everytime i see omething of his i cry:bawling: . this is the hardest thing ive ever had to deal with. thank all of you all who prayed for us and please dont forget about me and my little girl. :bawling:
I am greatly sadden by your post and am very very sorry. My deepest condolences. I know no words can ease your pain and different lifestyle that will take place. But please remember, we are all here for you and talk to you if you need anyone. Take good care of yourself and your little girl.

[Mitchandozzie]

I am so sorry.I dont have anything else to say............give Makaylah a hug for me,and a kiss.

[Left Paw]

*hug* I'm sorry, too.