in mourning too long?

[rubysoho]

A few years back my mom was moving and I was in college. We had a cat, or really, he had us. My mom never liked him - tried getting rid of him in the beginning without my knowledge, but he came back. His name was Boomer (like a boomer-rang). Anyway, she LEFT him when she moved. Didn't find him a home, nothing. Just up and left him there. Through word of mouth I heard about sightings in the neighborhood - I was away and could not do anything. Finally, he dissappeared. I know he must have passed on over the bridge. He was a grown male before he claimed us, and by the time he vanished he had been around for 6 years.

Well, I am still mourning his loss. Probably because of the manner in which he went. It tears me apart. But I think deep down there will never be another cat like him. In cats, he was my love.

So, how did you cope with the loss of your kitty? How long were you upset?

Thanks

[asta7775]

I'm sorry; I know it's probably that much harder when you don't have some sort of closure(spelling)..ie. never really knew what happend.

We had a cat when I was little and had to say good bye(she had FIP) when she was 7yrs and I was 10yrs, that was 21 yrs ago and I still think about her a lot and miss her. I don't know if you ever really get over it. I lost my 14yr bird 2yrs ago and when I think about him I still get very teary eyed (getting teary now).

I just try to remember all the good times(although they make me sad) and the funny things. I also try to help any cat's that I can that need it(any animal really) as sort of a way of honouring their memory. I tend to beat myself up about things, and remind myself that I did all I could and sometimes things are just out our hands. If it were me I would try to think positive and that someone found him or he found them and had a new home and that it was a good place and he was happy. I know it's hard when you really don't know but I'm sure he knew that while he was in your life that you loved him and since he was so loving I'm sure someone picked him up and gave him a good home.

Don't know if that was helpful or not and I know I would feel the same way if I was in your situation.