Id really like help on this please

[Picklezon]

STORY ABOUT THE BIRD... YOU DONT HAVE TO READ IT.. QUESTION BELOW...!

so Chloe my 5 year old budgie/parakeet idk what you want to call them died this morning:( .. i think it was a bad molt/getting older/some cancer or tumor she might have gotten.. we take very good care of our animals (i have a rabbit and hadd 2 parakeets i hate to say that!) anywaysss so im certain its not our fault for her death.. we loved her.. i dont like people judging me wrong. anyways she had been sick and we asked vets and everything about it and they said shes going to die there was nothing we could do.. and shed get really limp and puffed up.. then the next day be fine. and just when we thought she was getting better this morning she was at her worse (obviously) i thought she was already dead but she started fluttering a bit so i picked her up and held her.. my mom came home from walking and held her.. then she started coming back and was able to stand.. i was already late for school and my mom was late for work.. so we're like ok shes fine again and put her back in her cage on the ground incase she fell again with food and water by her.. few minutes later it got all the sudden worse.. so basically my mom held her until she died. and i had a hard time not crying at school.. it was hard to see my mom cry while holding her.


ANYWAYS my other bird tweety who we got a few months after chloe has never been left alone.. i know he's lonely! he's constantly looking for chloe.. my mom doesnt (well kinda doesnt) want to get another one.. because soon ill be graduating in a few years and she doesnt want to have to worry about them all by herself.. even though i know she loves taking care of them.....MY QUESTION IS.. since tweety has never been alone.. should we get another bird? or not? If we do will the bird be mean to him.. he's not a mean bird he's like the one that did everything chloe did. if chloe wasnt in the cage he's not going in it. ect.


sorry for this weird post.. im still kinda shaken about everything. thanks for the help.

[bbouille]

Parakeets are flock animals and need companionship. Hopefully you let Tweety see Chloe dead and knows what happened to her. She will mourn her loss for a while. Otherwise she'll just call and call for her to come back. When/if you do decide to get a companion for Tweety you shouldn't put them together right away. The new bird should be quarantined in a separate room for about a month and then put the cages close together for a while and let them get to know each other. Then they can be put together. I have done this a couple of times and I really do think it is helpful, instead of forcing them together they will eventually want to be together. Hope this is helpful. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Picklezon]

thankss ya we had chloe before tweety so chloe depended on us.. and as soon as tweety met chloe she trusted her for everything. and ya while chloe was dying in my moms hands tweety flew around chirping.. idk y. then when we knew she was dying dying we put tweety on my moms arm and then she was gone.. tweety just stared at her.. didnt move. we let him look at her for a while.. i think he's confused. i dont think he realizes what happen.. he still acts like he's looking for her.. and i just feel horrible for tweety being alone. chloe would have been fine alone but tweety cant he depends on other birds.. none like any bird we've ever had... he's not like afraid of us.. its just he's not very warm to us.. he wouldnt kiss us without chloe kissing us. soo hopefully the next bird we get has a similar personallity like chloe so tweety will be ok. but no bird will ever beable to replace her. thanks for your help.

now how to convince my mom its best? if i do get one is it better sooner or does it not matter.. id say sooner so tweety doesnt have to suffer being alone anymore.

[bbouille]

I'm not sure how to convince your mom. I have a couple of books about parakeets that both say they should be kept with others of their species, so showing her a book may help. As for when I would say sooner because you have to put the new bird through a quarantine first. But your families situation may dictate when and if you can get another bird and ultimately that is what is important. Good luck.

[pixibubbles]

Parakeets, especially budgies can do very well by themselves. we aren't talking lovebirds here lol. it is very rare for a budgie to pine and starve... just make sure you give them lots of company and toys and distract tweetie as much as possible. the time alone may actually do your relationship some good as tweety will be lonely and look to you for company. I'm not sure if they really understand loss and death, but i do know that they stop calling after a few weeks.

To convince ur mom... maybe rescue a bird of tweeties age? that way you not commiting to any longer...

i really wouldnt worry too much... it's not something you need to rush into... just keep an eye on tweetie and spoil him rotten :)

[HappyLouiseD]

I agree with pixibubbles, if you cant get another bird just spent as much time as possible with Tweety. If your bird hasnt already got one a mirror would be a good toy to get. Im very sorry to hear about chloe.

[CrazyBird]

I was going to suggest a mirror, too, happylouise.

Maybe a snugglebuddy (cloth material snuggly that hangs on the cage, next to a perch) for him would help too, so he has something to snuggle up to at night would be beneficial.

USUALLY parakeets will be ok after the loss of a mate.

[pixibubbles]

ohh what a cool idea crazy... can you buy them online? i wonder if you could get ones you coudl warm up to kepe warmer in winter... aww.... i wanna buy my birdie a teddy lol

but seriously, keets are usually fine after death of mate... they are resiliant little things. dont be fooled by their size :)

[HappyLouiseD]

Ive just found them on the net and they look very cosy!! You can also buy little birdy tents too for them to snuggle up in!

[CrazyBird]

sorry I didn't respond sooner. You should be able to find snugglies online. Probably at decent prices on ebay. Just make sure the materials are birdie safe, nothing that will trap toes, etc.

[Picklezon]

thanks for everyones help... i know its been a while.. but school takes up a lot of my time. I finally had a week off this week for "fall break" not much of a break when you get your wisdom teeth pulled. So tuesday my mom and i were looking for tweety.. and he was on my rabbits cage, he started to depend on him, and copper my rabbit didnt like that because the chirping hurts his ears. anyways we were on our way to go shopping and my mom says.. after we go shopping we're gunna look for a bird for tweety, but she made sure that we would find a baby bird and take our time. so the first store we went to we found the bird we wanted right away. Shes very pretty.. light blue and white. very mellow, and she likes tweety a lot.. shes getting use to me. but of course its going to take a bit. but the first night she got on my finger! its been 4 years since ive had to deal with a new bird. Tweety at first wasnt so sure about her. (we called her mia, after my hero Mia Hamm. and seems to have a sweet personality like her too) But today i had them on a tree and tweety went over and started kissing Mia. so i guess things are gunna turn out ok. Tweety and Mia are happy!

[HappyLouiseD]

Awww thats a really sweet story! Im glad everything turned out well and it sound like Tweety's a very happy bird! I hope the 2 birds have a happy life together!

[Picklezon]

ya i hope so too. but im really going to try to get this new bird to depend on us too, because tweety is about 4 years older then her, and when he dies, i dont want it to be a never ending cycle having to keep getting the birds friends. If it had been tweety that died and not chloe.. none of this would have happened.

but i do think everything happens for a reason. we may not like it but it does. Like if my sweet bird Gracie that i had before Chloe hadnt died, then id never would have been able to have Chloe. And i learned a lot from her. I loved Gracie a lot too, but i think the more things that touch your heart can really make you a better person, and you can learn from them all. Maybe ill learn from Mia now too.