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DonSimon
08-19-07, 12:27 AM 08-19-07
My wife and I went to the local animal control today with the idea of getting a dog. It is something we have talked about for a while now. We checked out all of the dogs and we saw this one we really liked named Zoe. They took her out and get her to us on a leash to take her to the dog walk area they have so we could get acquainted. She was really sweet, followed commands, had a great disposition. Her size was exactly what we were looking for. We both fell in love and went in to fill out the adoption forms. When we handed them in, the guy asked us the dogs name and an elderly couple in back of us heard us say it. They then say that they had been there earlier today and had picked out Zoe. They had filled out all of their paperwork but the city didn't have their other dog's rabies tag on file so they couldn't complete the adoption. They went home and got the rabies tag to prove that he was up to date. They got back while they were processing our adoption form. The lady who worked their confirmed their story. The manager said that it didn't matter, that they don't hold animals. I talked to the couple and they seemed nice enough and they said they were looking for a companion for their dog who was acting depressed since their other dog died. Zoe was the only dog in a close size range to their dog.

Even though the manager sided with us, I just couldn't do it. I felt the right thing to do was to let them adopt Zoe. I felt I did the right thing but I felt horrible about it. My wife cried the entire ride home. She is mad at me for making the decision that I made. She says that we would have been better pet parents and that I should have gone through with the adoption. Now, I am doubting myself. Did I do the right thing? I keep thinking that if I just kept staring straight ahead, let the guy keep processing the form, Zoe would be running around our back yard now, I'd be ecstatic to have her here and my wife would be happy.

Now, I am afraid of even looking for another dog after today's experience. I was afraid of going there today to start off with. The last time I almost got a dog it got taken away from me (15 years ago, I was 17 and my parents changed their mind about having a dog). I almost think it just isn't meant to be.

Tawnishka
08-19-07, 01:29 AM 08-19-07
I think you did the right thing. That family would probably be hurting a lot more because they had their heart set on Zoe longer than you guys. I know I couldn't take the dog if another family had been there first.

How does your wife know that the family are bad dog owners? Just because one of theirs passed doesn't mean they weren't doing things right.. I had to put my first dog to sleep because she was born with a disease that she could have survived - it just turned out that it developed too quickly.

And don't say that it probably wasn't meant to be. You could still get a dog. There are many other animals in this world that need our love and care. So, even though your wife may be very angry with you for the time being, reassure her by saying that you can probably find an even better companion. One dog isn't the end of the world, there are so many more out there.

So keep trying!!

DonSimon
08-19-07, 07:37 AM 08-19-07
We are looking. It is difficult to figure out how things will fall in the long run. My wife is better about it today. We will see how things play out.

Punkygirl0101
08-19-07, 08:48 PM 08-19-07
I think you did the right thing. This reminds me when we went to the SPCA and we really liked this young puppy that was in there. He looked just like Charlotte (One of our dogs, that we had just gotten at the time), and we really wanted to adopt him. There was a drawing for him, because there were about 5-6 people interested. We had to wait a while for them to get everything ready, and I got to know one of the people that were interested. She was 18, she had just lost her dog a couple months prior that she had since she was 6 years old. Her whole entire family was there, and they were all excited and really wanted him. They did the drawing and we were called..we had won..But me and my mom talked it over, and we decided to let them adopt him. And its a good thing we did that, or we would never have gotten our little Peanut from the SPCA the next month.

I think you will get lucky, and find an even better match for your family! :)

DonSimon
08-20-07, 06:19 PM 08-20-07
I went to the Jacksonville Animal Control today and found a dog that just seemed great. Good size, good personality. He met a couple of the neighbors dogs this afternoon and didn't even bark once. Now there is just going to the matter of getting the cats used to him. One of them has been curious and inspecting from a distance.

My wife just came home from work and thinks he is great. I am looking forward to us all figuring out this new dynamic to the house.


He is part Corgi and part Pekenese.

http://donsimon.clearwire.net/images/Ernie2.jpg

Punkygirl0101
08-20-07, 06:25 PM 08-20-07
He is absolutely adorable!! Congrats on finding the right family member for your family, and adopting rather than buying! :)

janie36
08-21-07, 04:54 AM 08-21-07
Even though you were disappointed about Zoe ( a very commendable and selfless act indeed), this little guy could've been waiting for ages if you hadn't have come along:) These things definately have a way of workng themselves out! Congratulations! :)

eviloxygen
08-21-07, 07:43 PM 08-21-07
Congrats!! Things always have a way of working out, and you went with your first instinct and I have a feeling it was right! Thank you for adoption and good luck with your new addition!

Rat101010101010
09-15-07, 08:50 AM 09-15-07
I'm sure Zoe will be happy. Luckily - so are you!!
Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!